The Best Advice No One Ever Tells You
Here at Blissful Lemon, I like to offer advice to help you manage your time, increase your productivity, and ultimately create your own happiness by improving yourself and the world around you. For that reason, it may seem counterproductive for me to caution you against listening to any advice, including mine, but that’s exactly what I am about to do.
Just not this.
Definitely listen to this.
There is no guide to life.
There is no standard of practice or rulebook that is going to tell you what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to reach your goals.
Believe me, many people have tried to create such a tool. From self-help gurus to life coaches, you can find an overabundance of videos, articles, books, and services to help you do whatever it is you’re trying to do. And most of the advice that you will find is, by all means, excellent advice. It works really well for a lot of people.
Unfortunately, you might notice that I said “a lot of people” and not “everyone.” That’s because even the best and brightest in the field cannot guarantee that their guidance is going to work for every person, 100% of the time. Every person is different, and every situation is different. It only makes sense that the best solutions are also different from one person to the next.
The best advice that anyone could ever give you (and rarely ever does) is to stop blindly following others’ advice, no matter how good it sounds.
Read or listen to the advice that is being given. Process it in your mind and consider how it may or may not work for you. But by all means, do not make any significant decisions or changes until you have carefully considered whether the advice is actually good for you.
Every piece of advice comes with a metaphorical grain of salt. Remember that when people give advice, it is based on their personal experience and what has been proven to work for them, in their situation, under their circumstances. Your situation and circumstances will most likely never be the same. Even if they seem eerily similar, you can pretty much guarantee that there will be subtle differences that make your scenario unique.
Don’t be afraid to make some changes if good advice is no longer working for you.
What works for you one day may not be nearly as effective the next. Circumstances are constantly changing. We, as people, are constantly changing. You have to be able to learn and adapt to those changes. If something does not work anymore, take a step back and approach it from a different angle. Explore other options until you find something that works – until it doesn’t anymore.